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This year, I decided to participate in national novel writing month. To be honest, I haven’t been diligent about writing of any kind the last 2 years. I’ve made a return to sports writing. However, the digital white space that were once precious properties have all but been deserted.

A few years ago, a client discussed his infertility issues with me. I listened and offered support in what would become an all-too-technical but fruitful journey with his partner. (They had a daughter in 2019). The conversation around miscarriages and fertility complications, specifically how men deal with it, became more visible…


Eventually, you’re going to run out of distractions.

I had my first drink at the age of 14. Looking back, it wasn’t about the forbidden taste. It wasn’t a teenage rebellion. I drank that E&J because I wanted to not feel. As young as I was, the fear of abandonment and the consequences of rejection were painfully obvious. Those thoughts often led to stupid (sometimes dangerous) behavior. When I took a drink, the purpose was ultimately, not to get drunk, to silence the thoughts and detach from the feelings behind them.

In 2015, I made the decision to give up alcohol. I didn’t take a sip of alcohol…


What is meant to make you feel better might actually be ruining your relationship

I always thought by this point, I’d be up to my knees in index cards with sight words written on the front. Fatherhood was high up on the priority list of to-dos, but I wanted things to be right. The situation didn’t have to be perfect. However, I wanted my first time as a father to be with a woman who was the Allonzo Trier to my Mitchell Robinson.

We talked about kids and eventually starting a family at great lengths. I was confident and comfortable talking to her about it because it seemed that we could get through anything…


Two people fall in love. They learn each other’s intricate parts. They let down walls of protection. They show compassion to the other’s less spoken of areas. They talk about building a life together. They learn from one another. They learn about life as a pair. Then one day, things start to feel different.

They begin to communicate in short sentences. The gestures of affection feel more obligatory. He doesn’t ask about her day. She doesn’t laugh at his jokes. He doesn’t wait up for that text of “I made it home safe”. She doesn’t bother asking about his weekend…


On handling loss and grief in a different way.

The box was roughly the size of a coffee table. But its presence filled the room. I hovered near the door. My brain couldn’t seem to connect with the nerves in my feet. The heaviness in my chest was palpable. It wasn’t until I saw everyone else that I started to put 1 foot in front of the other.

I took the place next to my mother where I had sat many times before. I could hear the wailing, the pleading. Though, it was his sister’s silence that overwhelmed me the most. Was it because she was so young and…


On trying to stay connected to “then”. And how I live forward.

When I moved to the DC area, it was a decision that was more pragmatic than a true desire. My responsibility was shifting towards being an additional caretaker. I needed to be close but not hovering. My career goals had also experienced an unexpected change in direction. At the time, a geographical rebirth seemed like the best way to juggle the two diverging roads.

Pulling up in the driveway, I feel accomplished. Fulfilled. The formerly out-of-reach sentiment of “I’ve made it” is now a regular mood. …


Recaps

KP continued his hot play as the Knicks came on top over the Denver Nuggets, 116–110.

Photo: nba.com/knicks

As the star of the New York Knicks, Kristaps Porzingis will have many statement games. In his freshman year as the leader of the pack, the squad will take their cues from him. When he comes out with energy and even a slight braggadocio, his teammates will fall in line as well as keep feeding him the ball. That’s exactly what happened tonight.

It’s interesting how the league picks and chooses which players will become nemeses based on age and the position they play in their franchise’s future. Denver Nuggets’ center Nikola Jokic has been called by many a top…


Preview

It’s the first time these two teams play without Carmelo Anthony on either roster since 2003.

Photo: Streeter Lecka/Getty Images

When a shooter gets into a slump, the only way they get out of it is to simply keep shooting. We’ve been ranting and bemoaning about Tim Hardaway Jr.’s shooting woes since the beginning of the season. And he couldn’t have come alive at a more opportune time.

The Denver Nuggets are one of the league’s most interesting young teams. They come to New York boasting their own two-win road streak, featuring the hot-handed duo of Gary Harris and Jamal Murray. They also added the underappreciated Paul Millsap to the frontcourt to help with defense and rebounding. …


Recaps

The Knicks were defeated by the Pistons on Saturday night by a score of 111–107.

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On paper, when you look at this roster, you wonder where the additional offense will come from. Kristaps Porzingis will carry it all on his shoulders and he’s proven he’s ready for it. But winning can’t be done solely by one player, no matter how great he is. It takes his teammates doing the little things and executing the bigger plan while he goes to work.

Tonight, KP had the upper-hand as he found the smaller forward, Stanley Johnson, guarding him on defensive switches early. Whether this was intentional to preserve Tobias Harris for offense or just the nature of…


Preview

The Knicks christen MSG with a Saturday night matchup against the Pistons.

Photo: Carlos Osorio/AP

It will feel like a surreal moment but also a breath of fresh air in the Garden as the Knicks take the Garden floor for the first time officially without Carmelo Anthony. After their loss in Oklahoma City on Thursday night, coming back to New York will be a nice change of pace. Last year in the home opener, KP scored a team-high 21 points in 36 minutes — the first glimpse at his capability of taking over the Knicks’ offensive load. …

JWII

Writing in the waiting room. Coach|Mentor|Entrepreneur

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